Marriage isn't easy, it is very very hard. It takes strength, passion, and perseverance.
It takes strength to get through the hard times, passion to keep it spicy, and perseverance to keep it alive.
Marriage is something that cannot be confined into a box or be guided by some set of standards, even if some try. Marriage is something that takes a lot of work and patience. It is the sacred, blessed merging of two souls into one. Against odds and even with favor it is a struggle.
E and I will be married for 6 years tomorrow. Time has flown and while I wish I could say that we are the most perfect couple in the world. We have had our fair share of ups and downs. As I look back and reflect about our marriage I can easily see times in all the years we have been together that our marriage could've been torn apart. But we stood by one another, and took those struggles and let it help us build our marriage instead of break it down.
You see you can either stand by and watch something fall, you can hold something up or you can pick up the pieces once they have fell and start over again. It is all a choice, and we over the years have chose to do all of those. We have fallen, we have held each other up, and we have picked up the pieces.
And honestly it has made us better, together and individually.
Over the years, we have blended more and more into one another. I always tell E that I fit perfectly into him like we were made for one another and I truly believe we were. Since E is a lot taller than I am, my head fits perfectly into his chest when we hug. I literally fit into him.
And now that we finally have our son [who is by far the best combination of each of us that I have ever seen], I know his birth has and will bring us closer together.
unsolicited, corny marriage advice:
be with your best friend.
be with someone you can live without you but choose not to.
be with someone who will love you even though you tell them to choose the restaurant but then say you don't want that.
be with someone who will buy you flowers once in a while, because he knows you secretly want them even if you try to act like you aren't that girl.
be with someone who makes you feel like every single love song is about you.
be with someone who tells you your losing your butt because you really are, and seriously need to do some squats.
be with someone who calls you when you were just thinking about them.
be with someone who your parents ask for anytime they see you. because you aren't their only daughter for crying out loud.
be with someone who cooks dinner and plates it pretty so you can take photos for the blog.
be with someone who enjoys the Sonic commercials just as much as you do, maybe even more.
be with someone who wants to grow old with you.
be with someone who wants to make babies with you.
be with someone who despite all of your flaws, still loves you regardless.
be with someone who makes going through the struggles of life a little easier because they are by your side.
And finally be with someone who makes you, you. Who corny as it sounds, "completes" you.
eric b collins, you're my love song.